So, your mediation is agreed or arbitration hearing award is published. Whether the outcome was what you wanted it to be or not, your next steps, the wash-up, and the changes that now need to be implemented become a very important part of your thought process moving forward. After the decision has been made and all agreements are made 100% official, you might find it hard initially to move on from the mediation or arbitration and embrace the outcome. Here are some key things to think about as you move forward.

Give yourself time to process

First, don’t be concerned if it takes some time to process. You may or may not be quite ready to accept the decision that have been made even if you made them. Working through a dispute can be a draining process and finding yourself at the end of the mediation or arbitration can be quite a stressful experience. Allow yourself time to process and appreciate that the decision has been made.

It pays to take some personal time to think about what has happened and how you reached this point. Immediately trying to appeal or renege on the deal will be a mistake; the decision has been made, so it’s time to work with the decision as best as you can and get on with life.

The new outcome

The new outcome that was discussed and agreed to in your mediation or awarded by your trusted arbitrator, may require you to take some new steps or put new things in place. Take your focus off what you can’t control and onto the things you can control. It may not seem like it right now, but once you’ve done everything you can to finalise the dispute, you will feel a lot better with the weight of dispute will lift off your shoulders completely.

What can be learnt?

One of the most empowering things that can come out of a mediation or arbitration, is the learnings you can glean. Are there life lessons that can be learned? In reflection, consider if you act in a way that could have been done differently? Turn your pain into a gain, by picking out the things you could do better for next time, or the things that you didn’t realise were positives in the end. Reflecting and learning can be one of the best ways to help you move forward.

Newberry Paterson is a firm that assists people in moving on and following through with the changes and consequences of an outcome from mediation or arbitration. For more information visit